Healing the Erotic Self Workbook (Digital)

Are you ready to deepen your erotic intelligence, reclaim your body, and transform your relationship to pleasure, desire, and self-trust?

Empower your erotic intelligence by getting rid of self-limiting beliefs about your self-worth, your desirability, & ability to give and receive love and pleasure. 

Created by a somatic sex therapist, Healing the Erotic Self is a workbook filled with self-reflection prompts, journaling exercises, and the somatic healing practice, SHIFT, that support your efforts to reconnect to your wholeness by creating an empowering healing narrative and reclaiming your relationship to your self-worth, self-love, and pleasure. 

 Move from self-awareness to erotic mindfulness by learning how to use the erotic to create affirming and compassionate presence practice for every day living. Whether you are a trauma survivor or a survivor who is also a healing & helping professional, Healing the Erotic Self Workbook supports your journey of erotic liberation.

Who This Workbook Is For:

This workbook is created for queer, trans, Black, Indigenous, and POC healers, helpers, survivors, professionals, and self-liberators who are ready to:

✔ Reclaim their erotic embodiment
✔ Heal from sexual distress and internalized shame
✔ Explore embodied safety, sensuality as self-care, and erotic living
✔ Learn how to reclaim desire, trust, and connection impacted by "The Defaults" of colonialism and capitalism
✔ Develop erotic intelligence as a mind-body-energy-spirit practice
✔ Deepen their erotic mindfulness with the practices of self-compassion and and self-trust
✔ Build a healing relationship with their body, boundaries, and desires

This is also for anyone doing healing work around:
• trauma
• sexual shame
• sexual anxiety
• erotic disconnection
• people-pleasing
• internalized oppression
• dissociation and embodied disconnection
• survival-based living
• chronic self-doubt
• pleasure scarcity

What’s Inside the HTES Erotic Intelligence Workbook

 A 150+ page self-guided healing experience featuring:

 ✔ Erotic Intelligence Foundations — learn the 8 areas that make up your Erotic Self
✔ Somatic + Energetic Tools — body scans, grounding practices, sensual awareness
✔ Re-imagining (Sexual) Pleasure through The Flow of Osunality (Dr. Zelaika Hepworth-Clarke)
✔ Sexual Shadow Work to explore the parts of you shaped by trauma, shame, and systemic oppression
✔ Healing-Centered Care Practices rooted in somatic psychology, ancestral knowing & neuroscience
✔ SHIFT™: A Self-Liberation Practice — Ground, Center, Nurture, Affirm
✔ Decolonizing Erotic Narratives through “The Defaults” (heteronormativity, respectability, gender scripts & more)
✔ Uses of The Erotic by Audre Lorde as a healing map
✔ Guided Reflections, Journaling Pages & Embodiment Prompts
✔ The Erotic Self Assessment — explore your relationship to pleasure, desire & self-awareness
✔ Lovershift™ Practices to expand your erotic confidence & desirability
✔ Tools to Rebuild Self-Trust & Safety in Your Body
✔ Sexual Liberation Mapping to shift from trauma narrative → healing narrative

This is not a read-and-forget workbook.
It is a ceremony, a healing container, and an erotic self-liberation companion.

What You Will Learn:

By working through this workbook, you will learn how to:

🌿 Unlock Erotic Intelligence

Understand erotic energy as sexual, non-sexual, intuitive, spiritual, and somatic.

🌿 Rebuild Your Relationship With Desire

Release the shame, guilt, and internalized narratives that shape your erotic identity.

🌿 Develop Embodied Safety

Improve your somatic intelligence by tuning into your body’s signals, needs, boundaries, and yes/no cues.

🌿 Heal Sexual Distress

Learn how trauma, oppression, and “The Defaults” shape sexual disconnection and how to reclaim pleasure and power.

🌿 Create an Empowered Erotic Embodiment

Connect your emotional, spiritual, sexual, mental & energetic selves.

🌿 Reclaim Your Capacity to Experience Pleasure as Your Birthright

Move from performance → presence
From orgasm pressure → embodied fulfillment
From survival → erotic living

Why This Workbook Works:

Unlike mainstream sex guides that center performance, technique, or partner satisfaction, HTES centers YOU.
Your identity.
Your lived experience.
Your lineage.
Your erotic power.

You will learn how to move from:

❌ Shame → ✔ Self-Permission
❌ Disconnection → ✔ Intimacy with Self
❌ Survival Mode → ✔ Erotic Aliveness
❌ Performance → ✔ Somatic Pleasure
❌ Trauma Narrative → ✔ Healing Narrative

This is a workbook that decolonizes sexuality, honors the realities of Black and queer embodiment, centers somatic safety, and restores the erotic as your birthright.

Perfect For:

✔ Therapists
✔ Coaches
✔ Somatic practitioners
✔ Black, queer, trans, and gender-expansive adults
✔ Survivors
✔ Folks healing sexual shame
✔ Professionals exploring erotic wellness
✔ Anyone wanting to build erotic intelligence
✔ Students of somatics, spirituality & sexual healing
✔ Those wanting a deeper connection to self

What Readers Say

“This workbook helped me reconnect to myself in a way therapy alone couldn’t.”

“I never heard of The Erotic Self and my struggles makes so much sense to me now."

“Queen- you did that. I feel like I can share with my daughters.”

"This is a beautiful book. I feel seen."