Whose measuring stick are you using?

As most months in the colonialized calendar, June carries layers.

For queer and trans folks, it is Pride Month — a month that began because Black and trans women were tired. Tired of not being able to BE- be in peace, be in pleasure, be in community. 

As an act of erotic defiance by Black and Brown trans women who decided that their lives mattered more than anyone's comfort with their existence.

For the Erospirituality community, June is Sexual Liberation Month — the recognition that liberation and erotic aliveness are inseparable. You cannot be fully liberated in a body that is still colonized by shame. And you cannot be free in a world that polices desire. This month, we honor part of EC's pleasure lineage of erotic resistance — and I am committed to creating spaces that allows us to live in the fruit of that. 

This Month's Healing Theme: Sexual Liberation as Political Act

Sexual liberation, as I teach it, is not about having more sex. It is about reclaiming radical self-permission — the right to define your own desires, your own boundaries, and your own erotic truth on your own terms. It is the fourth stage of the Erotic Liberation arc: the culminating practice of erotic freedom where desire, intimacy, and pleasure are embraced as sacred expressions of life itself.

And for queer Black people, for trans folks, for those whose very existence has been named as deviant by the systems we are working to dismantle — this liberation is not a metaphor. It is the ongoing work of survival and transcendence. We honor that fully this month.

Featured Practice: Challening the Defaults

This newsletter started with the question:

Whose measuring stick are you using?

This question prompts you to remember your distress is informed by what you have been taught who you should be and energetically understanding who you truly are. Your embodied liberation will transform when you begin to understand that decolonization is an embodied healing practice. This is what I teach in the erotic healing intensive, Healing the Erotic Self.

Community Invitation

Erospirituality Centre celebrates and holds space for our LGBTQ+ erotic kin— especially queer and trans Black and Brown people whose liberation this movement has always depended on. Stay tuned for lives on social media, IG and Tiktok @sistasexologist, and listen to the first season of my podcast, Erotic Lessons on YouTube.

Til next time